i think along with “suitability”--ugly is one of the worst words in the english language. ugly. the word says it all. lives are spent in pursuit of its opposite or in retreat from its presence. ugly. there are few truly ugly things. disease--yes. cruelty--double yes. intolerance--triple yes. but people? i understand why we need to categorize things. it makes it easier to understand and embrace or walk away from. but people? i worked at a children’s burn clinic while in college. third-degree burns on a six year old arm--quadruple yes--it was ugly. some children were burnt over 90% of their bodies. it transformed them like some sadistic witch in a fairy tale so they no longer resembled what we think of as human. but ugly? no. challenging? incredibly so.
the challenge being to not categorize them and walk away. the challenge was to look past the burnt flesh and scars and see the person still there. i have seen ugly in my life. ugly behaviour. ugly attitudes. ugly motives. but people? who am I to say the elephant man was ugly? beautiful--no. but ugly? no one deserves ugly.